Progress In the Midst of Near Tragedy

wreck4My mind would not focus on that fateful afternoon when the phone rang and the voice said, “I am the nurse in the emergency room in Walsenburg, Colorado, and I have both of your parents.”  I listened as she spoke of minor injuries and miraculous efforts by two semi truck drivers and numerous first responders.  I never dreamed I would receive one of those “dreaded calls.”

Handle the Immediate

I made the phone calls to inform other people and then headed for the hospital 90 miles away.  All that I had planned to complete was set aside for life’s highest priorities.  I knew that most of what I wanted to do to make progress on my first product could be done in smaller segments of time.

In the days that followed, I returned to some of those tasks and moved forward on the task list that I had made more than a week before.  I could stay on track with the right series of steps, with constant interruptions, because I had already made my plan.  My mind is full of questions about caring for my parents, but my business has not suffered in the past week.

Do What is Possible 

Sitting in a hospital room working on the highest priority tasks has allowed me to worry less and be productive.  Some tasks just cannot be completed where anyone else is present.  I am supposed to be making some recordings, so those will have to wait a few days.  Quiet is not a common trait in a hospital room.

My task list is growing, but at least I have not lost track of all my ideas.  Control over my thoughts has been one of the greatest challenges.  I do not want to think about what could have happened in the accident if the first semi driver had not moved to his right and onto the shoulder of the road.  He saved my parents’ lives.  I refuse to allow my mind to be my enemy.

Accept Reality

Investigation into my parents’ transition back to home has caused me to recognize the seriousness of aging.  I never realized how many people must participate in decisions for them.  Relationships are more important than ever when you reach out for help to find the resources for rehabilitation and long-term elder care.

Yesterday, we realized that the first step will be a rehabilitation center.  We made the decision to move both of them to an assisted living center for at least two months after the rehab center.  My mother’s sister is the administrator of a lovely facility just one mile from my parents’ home.  The details have been addressed.  Time will provide insight for their ability to return home.

Delays Are Inevitable

I am aware that the launch of my product will be delayed.  I might make up the time later, but at this point, life is too much to handle.  Refusing to accept the immediate delay would make everyday impossible.  My product might even improve with the care and energy that I will invest once life returns to some semblance of normalcy.

I guess the moral of the story is that life’s priorities ebb and flow, but my dream of success in this business must never die!

How do you handle those unexpected events of life?

Leave a comment and participate in the conversation.

— Mialei


  • HI Mialei, sorry to hear about the accident. And glad your elders are both ok.

    I have been ‘managing’ this priorities between kids and work. On one hand, learning the ropes to build my blog; on the other hand, kids constant needs for attention. I admit I spent too much screen time and it has not been a healthy role modeling, but there are simply too much to learn. I learn to accept that kids needs come first, everything else is secondary. It is still a work in progress, but I am managing it.

    You are doing great Mialei. Find you a strong and soulful person. Keep on keeping on. You are excellence!

    To your Abundance, Sandy 🙂
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  • Mialei Iske

    Hi, Sandy,

    Thank you for stopping by again! I love your warm comments. The past 6 days have felt like 6 years. Constant details to address. I am never sure everything is ready for the next day. I do wish you all the best in all of your endeavors.

    — Mialei

  • Hey Mialei!
    My best wishes to your parents. You are a strong person with the way you are coping with the accident. Its good to read that you have managed to take something positive out of your experience. Looking forward to the launch of your product. Good Luck!

  • Mialei Iske

    Hi, James,

    Thank you for your encouragement. Having something to occupy my mind has kept me from running down all the possibilities. We are making some good progress in getting Mom and Dad to the next step. I am just grateful to have access to great support and answers to my questions. My product is making progress this week too. So glad wifi is in all these big health facilities.

    I wish you all the best!
    — Mialei

  • Hi Mialei,

    So sorry about your folks accident. But, am delighted they’re going to be ok, as you implied?

    Years ago I had to accept that if we live long enough, we’ll be visited with personal tragedy of some sort. How we deal with it, makes or breaks us…our choice.

    From your post, I’d say this tragedy is making you. Bless you and your folks.
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  • Mialei Iske

    Hi, Mr. Ed,

    Always great to hear from you. I think you are right, with age comes experiences that stretch us. About an hour before I received that phone call, the thought crossed my mind that they had had an accident. The past two weeks have challenged me to reach for help from people who knew more than I did. Mom and Dad are now safely in the assisted living center. Mom will continue therapy to get back on both feet in the next couple of months.

    I know there are many other decisions ahead of us as we continue to deal with their aging.

    Great to hear from you.
    — Mialei

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